You sit there, your thoughts an endless loop, “yes, or no?” You think.

“Yes or no?” You whisper to yourself.

“To say yes or to say no?” The frustration mounts as the question gets you nowhere.

That’s because you’re on an island that is neither of the two; rather, you find yourself somewhere in between. It may feel like an irritating place to be, but the good news is that the stay in that zone will be temporary.

For a moment, let's enter your mind to the island of the in-between. You see a resume, or you just came back from a date, and you wonder whether or not the boy or girl is worth pursuing. You go through the list of the situation's pros and cons, yet the answer still eludes you. That's normal. That's natural. We've all been here before at some point or other.

You feel this way because your gut reaction isn't strong enough to pull you in one direction; rather, it sees both sides of the equation and is unsure which side weighs heavier.

In such a case, it is a good idea to give that person a chance, or a second chance, or even a third chance. That way, you can never ask yourself what would have been, and instead, you will look at the situation through the lens of knowledge and experience. Getting out of the island of in-between is very simple—all you have to do is go out and try. All you have to do is tell yourself that you will show up and put your best foot forward.

It is preferable to make a decision based on strength and direction rather than confusion and uncertainty.

Nothing stays stagnant, and so by giving the said individual a chance, you will either lean to the side of yes or no, alleviating what would otherwise be an endless loop of question mark thoughts.