Ready to try something new?

I was. So, I decided to join a speed dating event that was hosted by adoptashadchan. It was on Zoom, so all you had to do was get half-dressed (as long as you remember not to stand up) and put on some makeup. It was a really cool and exciting experience, and I recommend it to anyone interested in trying something different.

For those unfamiliar with how speed dating works, each girl was placed in a breakout room and the guys circulated to each room. You had about five or so minutes to talk to the boy and see how it went. Following the event, you can request a follow-up meeting with boys you felt interested in.

What’s also really incredible about the system is that you can create a profile on adoptashadchan and answer questions about your preferences. For example, you may recall from one of my previous posts that I have a height requirement, so only boys that fall within my comfort level will I be matched up with.

You may be surprised how quickly you can get a sense of someone! You may think it takes a while to get a feel on a person, but it isn't necessarily true. It takes time to really get to know someone; nonetheless, it can take mere minutes to get an idea of what someone is like.

The two most significant indicators to me are their demeanor (what expression they wear, is it gloomy or serious?) and two is what they choose to talk about (is it about other people, or is it about their interests or job?)

In dating, it's about doing your hishtadlus- your part- and that could be meeting shadchanim, posting your profile on online platforms, joining events that cater to singles, or being part of a shidduch chat.