The Hotel Lobby- Yes, the dreaded option. For most people, this is enough to make them want to call off the date with every fiber of their being. However, this is also the most commonly picked place for a reason beyond my understanding.
Here are some tips to make the Hotel Lobby experience less anxiety producing: I went on a hotel lobby date and both the boy and I worked on a puzzle together. It really took the edge off. When I couldn’t think of something to say, I shifted my focus to the puzzle while I considered what I wanted to bring up. Since one doesn’t know in advance which hotel lobby they will go to, and most of them are basic, be bold and bring along a game, like UNO. Additionally, if it’s really not going well, get a change of scenery. Suggest exploring the place or taking a stroll outside (weather permitting). By consenting to a hotel lobby, you didn’t agree to glue yourself to the chair.
A restaurant- You may think, “No, thank you!” I was tempted to do the same the first time it was suggested. However, it really isn’t bad. When a boy recommended we go to a restaurant on the first date, I simultaneously thought, “This is going to be so weird!”, and, “Wow, he’s innovative!” So long as you order something you can cut easily with a fork and knife, you can breeze through it. Skip the saucy foods, like spaghetti. When necessary, you can embrace the food as a welcomed break from talking.
A park- There are only so many trees one can point out. So yes, it can get monotonous. But if the weather is nice, a walk in the park can also be pleasant. Additionally, you can look away for moments at a time if keeping eye contact becomes difficult.
Starbucks- I have done the Starbucks date on more than one occasion and I found it to be relaxing Sometimes the music is loud and it’s noisy but if you catch it at an off hour, it can be enjoyable. In between conversations, you can sip your drink and run topic ideas through your head. (This option works for cholov yisroel adhering people as well, for there are milk alternatives).
The Zoo- This is underrated in my opinion but is actually quite a good choice. There are so many things to point out on an outing to the Zoo. If the boy offers it as an option, I’d say to take him up on it. You can walk around, learn interesting tidbits about animals, and observe and discover more about the boy you are dating in a unique setting. Plus, if you want to take a rest or be more laser-focused on the boy, there are benches. And if it’s really not going well, head to the monkey pavilion, because at the very least you’ll be guaranteed entertainment.
NOTE: I understand COVID is affecting us in the dating sphere, and not everything is as accessible as it once was. Thankfully, at this point, most establishments are open. One usually has to wear a mask, sure, but these spots can be enjoyed, nonetheless. Outdoor activities or open areas like parks are more common, for often you don’t need to wear a mask at such sites. Wishing you much success wherever your dates take you!