Clarity is Key

It is essential to be very clear when describing to someone what it is you are looking for. It's okay to also speak of things you learned you are not looking for, so long as you package it correctly. We are dealing with the element of time- your time, your matchmaker’s time, and your match’s time.

If something is a make-it-or-break-it for you, communicate what that is so that you don't waste people's time. For example, if someone is looking for a very opinionated type of person, tell the individuals seeking a match out for you that it is an important quality that you need in your spouse.

A person has many components- height, age, profession, personality, location, and so on. Be honest with yourself if you feel strongly about any of those facets, and then give it over in a way that feels right to you.

As we have discussed previously, everyone has a couple of deal breakers, so long as you very clearly convey said important traits or factors that you know you are looking for or that don't match well with you, it is vital to state those characteristics so they can be understood.

By doing so, you will be helping yourself and the people you go out with in a significant way. Everyone is looking for their zivug, and weeding out people in the early stages saves later heartbreak and annoyances. You owe it to yourself and others to be forthcoming with what you want – being clear is key.

Communication is the foundation of every relationship, and why not start with clear communication as to what you feel or know you need and what is important to you as a seeker?

Wishing everyone a lot of success and clarity.