Listen to Your Inner Voice

It's talking. It may be muted, it may whisper, but it's present.

And it would be wise to pay it mind.

Some think of it as an inner voice and others as a gut feeling. But either way, it should be heeded.

It's a way of you trying to guide you for the benefit of you. 

The guy I was going out with recently was a boy that I liked and appreciated in a number of ways, yet there was still something inside me that felt off when I was around him, and the more time we spent together, the stronger and more forceful those feeling became. It was confusing to me for a while, and in the beginning, I chose not to pay too much attention to it. I told myself I felt strange because he was still a stranger to me. But there came the point where I had to ask myself, what is this voice trying to tell me?

After much contemplation, it finally occurred to me.

 I didn't feel safe.

Let me clarify, safe as in comfortable, not as in that I was afraid he'd harm me chas vishalom. (In that case, no deliberation would be called for).

 Something inside me was sending off warning signals, trying to say to me that something about the situation, something about the boy, isn’t working for us. Instead of these feelings quelling, they just became more at the forefront. Instead of things feeling more right, they felt more wrong.

Then came the certainty that I must listen to these feelings. To my inner voice. To my gut reaction.

Hashem gifted us with an inner guide that's supposed to help us make good decisions for ourselves and our lives. We must value this gift and let it help us make the right choices.

I challenge you to explore your inner voice. To take an interest in it. To understand where it's coming from.

It will help direct you in all areas of your life, especially in shidduchim G-d willing.

Wishing you much hatzlacha (success)!